An idea (self-reflection)

A mental model is a way of seeing the world—a lens that helps us interpret reality, make decisions, and gain clarity in uncertain moments.

The best leaders and thinkers don’t just react to life; they use mental models to step back, reframe, and respond with wisdom.

Most of us have employed these models from time to time, but we may not be intentional about them or fully appreciate what they do for us.

When life feels overwhelming, when challenges stack up, or when we lose sight of what truly matters, these mental models help us regain perspective and focus on what’s most important.

Mental Model #1: Looking Back at History

This week, I was wrestling with some challenges at work when a wise mentor gave me a simple but powerful piece of advice:

“Take a step back.”

He has a picture on his wall of General Eisenhower speaking to troops before D-Day.

“Cal, do you know why I keep this picture on my wall?” he asked.

I had seen it many times but never really thought about why.

“I have this picture to remind me to keep perspective. When things feel tough, I remember this moment in history—Eisenhower, encouraging his troops, not knowing whether Operation Overlord would succeed. And those troops, knowing many of them wouldn’t make it back, listening intently and still willing to go into the breach.”

I got chills as he was saying this.

I was looking at the picture and reflecting on what they must have been thinking at this pivotal moment in history.

His words immediately calmed me down and gave me a much wiser lens to process my current challenges.

In a matter of minutes, he reframed my problems into something more manageable.

This too shall pass, I thought.

Looking back at history—whether through stories of courage, leadership, or resilience—gives us perspective.

It reminds us that struggles are not new, and we are not alone.

Mental Model #2: Zooming Out to See the Big Picture

His words reminded me of that feeling I often get when I’m in an airplane, looking down at the ground.

Everything seems so small.

The lakes, the mountains, the sprawling cities—things that feel massive when I’m on the ground look tiny from 30,000 feet.

It puts life in perspective.

The things that feel urgent—deadlines, frustrations, inconveniences—often aren’t as significant as they seem.

And yet, when we’re in the middle of them, they consume us.

This is why zooming out is such a powerful tool for gaining perspective.

One way I do this regularly is by stepping outside, looking at the sky, and reminding myself:

The world is vast. My problems are temporary. And this moment is just one part of a much bigger story.

But there’s an even deeper, more powerful mental model for gaining perspective—one that isn’t just about stepping back but about looking ahead.

Mental Model #3: Looking Forward to the End

The psalmist prayed:

“Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.” — Psalm 90:12

That verse hits me every time.

Why does reflecting on the shortness of life give us wisdom?

I’ve interviewed several cancer survivors on my podcast, and every one of them describes how their diagnosis instantly changed their perspective.

Things they once stressed about suddenly seemed insignificant.

Things they had put off—conversations, relationships, meaningful work—became urgent.

The reality is, all of our days are numbered.

In my Core Values Course, I’ve guided over 150 people through a eulogy exercise—a moment to step into the future and ask:

“What do I want people to say about me when I’m gone?”

Without fail, this brings clarity.

Many walk away realizing their calendars don’t reflect their true priorities. They see, sometimes for the first time, that they’ve been busy but not intentional.

And that leads to an important question:

How Do We Live an Intentional Life?

I’ve landed on four principles—what I call the Four C’s—that help us not just pass through life, but truly live it.

1. Clarity – Know what truly matters.

If we don’t define success for ourselves, the world will do it for us. Clarity comes from reflection, asking hard questions, and aligning our daily actions with our deepest values.

2. Courage – Take action on what matters.

Clarity is really important, but it must be ignited with action. Once we know what matters, we need the courage to make decisions that align with our values—even when they’re difficult or inconvenient.

3. Community – Surround yourself with the right people.

We don’t walk this road alone. Who we surround ourselves with will either pull us toward our purpose or distract us from it. Community fuels resilience, accountability, and joy.

4. Consistency – Show up daily.

A meaningful life isn’t built in big moments—it’s built in the small, everyday choices. Consistency transforms good intentions into reality.

Life Is Short. Make It Count.

So, when life feels overwhelming…

When the urgent threatens to overshadow the important…

When we lose sight of what really matters…

Let’s zoom out.

Let’s look back at history, step back to see the bigger picture, and—most importantly—look forward to the end.

Because one day, our time will run out.

May that reality guide us to live with wisdom and deep joy for the daily gifts we have.

A question

Take a moment to think about the most important relationships in your life. Picture the people who matter most—your spouse, children, closest friends, or mentors.

Now ask yourself:

What does true success in this relationship look like?

Not just in theory, but in real life.
• What does it feel like to be fully present with them?
• What kind of moments would you cherish together?
• What words, actions, or habits would define a thriving relationship?

A quote and resource

"Success is having the people who know you the best, respect you the most."

— John Maxwell

The Mission

I am on a mission to help thousands of leaders gain clarity, courage, community, and consistency in their lives. Thank you for joining me on this journey!

I'm rooting for you,

Cal

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Intentional Letter: Mental Models